Quotes dating violence
He wants his partner to devote herself fully to catering to him, even if it means that her own needs—or her children’s—get neglected.You can pour all your energy into keeping your partner content, but if he has this mind-set, he’ll never be satisfied for long.There’s a phrase, “the elephant in the living room,” which purports to describe what it’s like to live with a drug addict, an alcoholic, an abuser.People outside such relationships will sometimes ask,“How could you let such a business go on for so many years? ” And it’s so hard for anyone living in a more normal situation to understand the answer that comes closest to the truth; “I’m sorry, but it was there when I moved in.When she stands up to him, he makes her pay for it—sooner or later.Friends say: “Leave him.” But she knows it won’t be that easy. He’ll get friends and relatives to feel sorry for him and pressure her to give him another chance.Until the victim has developed a detailed and realistic contingency plan and has demonstrated her ability to carry it out, she remains in danger of repeated abuse.” ― Judith Lewis Herman, “My father was one of those men who sit in a room and you can feel it: the simmer, the sense of some unpredictable force that might, at any moment, break loose, and do something terrible. 27]” ― John Burnside, “When a man starts my program, he often says, “I am here because I lose control of myself sometimes. Yes, he's out there, and he's clearly not going to leave you alone until one of three things happens: he hurts you and gets arrested, or he makes a mistake and gets arrested, or you stop him.” ― Rachel Caine, “It isn't very nice to admit, but domestic violence has its uses.