While parents are increasingly more liberal, they might be worried about you dumping their son or daughter when you finish your study abroad, volunteering, or working in Japan. No matter how fluently you speak Japanese, how long you have been living in the country, or how “Japanese” you act, if you do not look Japanese, you cannot become Japanese.Or even worse, they might be worried about you getting married and taking their child back home to start a life abroad together that is thousands of miles away. Dating a Japanese person will be different than dating someone from your home country. It's not bad; some people think it is a great advantage.Once you identify the source, you can take steps to react in a graceful manner. • With their friends: Dating a foreigner, especially a white foreigner, can be a status symbol.There are certain women that only try to date black men and men that only try to date white women. • With family: If you get to the point where you meet their family, expect a bit of resistance.This is especially true during casual encounters with a Japanese person who has never dated a foreigner. Some of the common presumptions you might want to watch out for are: If you are not comfortable taking your relationship to the next step (especially in terms of physically) make that clear!Intercultural relationships often have difficulties when it comes to communication.
If a casual date starts pulling back, don't chase them. There’s a Japanese woman walking with a black man—-they like black guys! There’s some statistical thing going on, is what I’m trying to say. Half a dozen couples a day, out of cities with millions of people. I mean, can you really talk about dating Japanese women . There’s a short guy—-the Japanese really are short! That’s because the people who didn’t get lucky have already left. Although I still believe that for her to opine about dating as a foreign man seems roughly on par with me talking about being a German blogger. If you are looking for something casual, keep it casual and avoid meeting friends and family. What happens when your study abroad, volunteer, or internship experience is over?
If you are planning on continuing the relationship, you might need to set boundaries and long term goals for the relationship.
• With strangers: Japan is a very homogenous society, so people will stare. However, it would be foolish to expect to be “treated Japanese.” Breakups in Japan are less like a breakup and more like a gradual fading away.